That would bother a lot of people

Dating someone older than my dad

For most of us, the idea of our parents dating is hard. It didn't help that this woman lacked the daughter's intelligence and maturity. That's not to devalue your feelings, which are natural, but you need to get over them and support your dad.

Let him sow a few oats if he can and stick to loving him as only a daughter can. If we were serious about making things work in the longer term, we had to persuade our family and friends that this was the real deal and we couldn't do that without believing it ourselves.

But it's better toDon't do this to him

Not being harmed if they ever are, call the authorities. In both cases it was just something that worked. My dad and I are close in every aspect but this. You have the opportunity to get to meet and be close to someone who might well be a pretty cool person who also just happens to be involved with your father.

But it's better to accept than build a wall. Don't do this to him if you love him. We make the most of every day and refuse to get caught up in the petty arguments that consume many couples.

Dad lives in England, I'm in Australia, and we didn't speak much after he told me, because I was grossed out. Having observed something like this from a slight distance, I'm guessing that you are not the only one in your father's life who feels weird about the situation. If my dad was dating someone my age, that would be kind of creepy to me, too. Try to assume the best of her before believing the worst. If you had asked me five years ago who I imagined marrying and starting a family with, a man old enough to be my father would not have been top of the list.

Sounds like this deserves professional help, too. The person you describe as his ideal dating partner is someone anyone would be proud to be related to. Of course, feelings don't have to translate into behavior and you'll probably have to continue being polite but distant. Let your dad do his thing.